"It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife." Proverbs 21:9
It is admitted that true men are basically extinct. We are left with the man-boys who know nothing of responsibility, honor, or integrity. Due to this occurrence, women need to understand their role in dealing with these remnants of maleness.
Ladies, you are placed in a position where you are called upon to do more. Where he abdicates, you must fill the gap. At the same time, you must demonstrate a greater dose of virtue. The man-boy needs you if he will amount to anything.
You will be tempted to snarl. Nagging and haranguing will be a vice that becomes almost second nature because there is so much he fails to do. But make every effort not to be the quarrelsome wife mentioned in the proverb. Provoking him in such a way will only drive him further away.
The rooftop was basically the man-cave of the ancient times. It was a place to go to get away from the constant harassment he would take from his spouse.
In sum, if you continuously browbeat him for playing his video games rather than doing the dishes, he will retreat further into his video games as a form of escapism. If you gripe at him for his "do-nothing-ness" (no matter how much he deserves it), he will do more nothing-ness because he wishes to escape from you. Ultimately, such an attitude will force a divorce, the ultimate escapism.
While your inclination will be to do otherwise, make every effort to encourage him on a regular basis. Even though he deserves a ripe slap in the face (or a hefty kick in the backside), seek to find some vestige of manliness in him to praise. It may be that your humility and tenderness will evoke what the sharper tones could not. Perhaps, by God's grace, the small ember of manhood can be kindled by the virtues of your femininity.
If he will be won to Christ and his duty before Him, it will be because you have been gentle and patient. It will be because you have sought to be gentle and kind.
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